I wish people understood that nb people gendering themselves and playing around with gendered terms and letting their friends gender them is like…. Different than a stranger gendering you. Because with a stranger, I have no idea how you’re navigating my gender, other than that you’re calling me by limiting terms and judging me based on those limited terms. Whereas with myself and my friends like….. I know them calling me a queen or king or boy or bitch or whatever… They Get It and they Know what I am so they aren’t limiting me, they’re playing in the space that is gender. So, I guess bottom line is: if you’re a stranger, stop assuming you can gender and label people who you don’t know.
